Youngest Son 'Threatens to Borrow Money If Not Given'—Madam Xiang Regrets That Too Much Motherly Love Spoiled the Child

China Star Group chairman Charles Heung and his wife Tiffany Chen (Madam Xiang) have two sons. The eldest, Jacky Heung, became an entertainer and married actress Bea Hayden, with the family often appearing together in public—except for their younger son, Heung You, who seems to have become invisible in the family. In her latest Douyin video, Madam Xiang lamented: “So many people in the comments ask me why I don't mention Heung You. He is my pain. This saying, ‘A loving mother often spoils her son,’ I didn’t really understand it until I was over 50. I really regret it.”

Heung You made headlines in society twice. In 2009, he was 22 when he got into a physical altercation with two other men in Stanley, Hong Kong—all three were charged with fighting in a public place, though the charges were later dropped. In 2015, he assaulted a taxi driver in Mong Kok, threatening him by saying, “Do you know who I am?” He faced three charges: assault occasioning actual bodily harm, criminal intimidation, and common assault.

In the video, Madam Xiang helplessly said that Heung You told a psychologist that, since childhood, he felt his mother favored his older brother Jacky Heung. Actually, she had treated both sons equally, hiring Hong Kong’s best tutors for every skill they learned. Both trained and studied together, but the older brother ended up winning swimming and tennis championships, “He (Heung You) would just try to get by; even with the same coach, he just wanted to get your attention. I don’t know why. I don’t understand his mindset. Look, the two incidents he got into were both because he couldn’t control his temper—he hit people, the taxi driver, and after he hit him still said, 'Do you know who my dad is?'”

Madam Xiang said with a wry smile, whenever Heung You came home to ask for money, he was extremely sweet, “He’s really good at sweet-talking you and promises you everything. When you tell him, ‘You can’t do this, you can’t do that,’ he says, ‘Alright, mom, I’ll definitely change,’ and agrees to everything, but once he gets the money, he forgets all about it.” But since he is her son, she always forgave him. “Actually, forgiveness is the same as indulging him. Every time he just needs to say a few nice things and I let it go and give him money again, raising him to be a big lazybones. He figures if he runs out of money he can just come home and get more.”

Madam Xiang regrets being too indulgent: “I should have beaten him and not given him money—let's see if he'd behave. I shouldn't have given him even a penny. Now it’s too late, and even more, he says that if we dare not give him money, he’ll go borrow it—he’s started to threaten us.” She said sincerely: “So for us as parents, even if you put your heart and soul into it, help them in every way, hope they’ll become accomplished, and give them lots of money, it's useless. If they don't have what it takes, they just don’t.

So I advise wealthy families: don’t give your kids too much money. If they graduate from college and want to start a business and have the talent, you can just give them a startup fund. With the first sum of money, you'll see right away whether they have what it takes to do business.

For ordinary families, when they graduate from college, you (the parents) have done your part—they should be able to support themselves after going out into the world. Don’t make my mistake. We gave too much and spoiled him. He thinks it’s too easy, just says a few nice things and gets money… Sigh! In the end, this is what happens. Why did I only realize this in my 50s? It’s too late! So I advise everyone, please don’t follow in my footsteps.”

Source: Apple News Network